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The Fairy Tale by James Sant (Wikimedia Commons). Are you making plans for your children’s spiritual growth?

 

Have you ever thought of having a spiritual director for your kids or grandkids? Have you ever thought of being one? It’s not enough to teach children “religion”–i.e., Catechism. We also need to teach them how to become saints.

I am developing a spiritual growth plan for my three older children. (J is a little too young at age three!) Here are the areas I am considering:

Temperament

D is almost purely choleric, M is melancholic-phlegmatic, and C is primarily phlegmatic. (I haven’t completely figured him out yet–he’s eight and doesn’t know himself as well as the others do.)

Each of the four classical temperaments has a different perspective on life. Each has typical strengths and weaknesses. I seek to encourage my boys in their strengths and help them fight their weaknesses. I plan to do much of this through reading. Books will inspire them where lectures won’t.

Talents and interests

Temperament is only one part of personality. Each child has unique talents. For example, cholerics are bursting with energy, but one may be good at football and another at track.

Quiet and reserved M has a surprising acting ability.

How can my children use their gifts to glorify God? How can their talents help them choose a vocation and a career?

Developmental and academic level

In order to guide my children closer to Christ, I must understand the level of their intellectual and psychological development. I will consider Erik Erikson’s stages of psycho-social development, as well as Piaget’s stages of cognitive development.

These considerations should help me choose goals that are realistic for each child.

Saints and other famous people to study

Which saints shared my child’s temperament? Which saints’ stories will he find most interesting?

What historical figures can inspire my child to greater things? Could any provide a counter-example to serve as a warning against misusing one’s gifts?

Goals for prayer

By the time they graduate from high school, I want each of my children to have a habit of thirty minutes of mental prayer a day, preferably in the morning. I can’t help them meet this goal without specific plans for growth in prayer.

M and C will still need my guidance for prayer for some time. I hope to make more meditations that they can use on their own, as we begin to set aside a half hour at the beginning of each school day for Bible reading, prayer, and quiet time.

I hope to lead D to begin making short (five-minute) meditations on his own. Then each school year we can expand that time by five minutes until he reaches the thirty-minute goal. This will take some one-on-one help at the beginning, but I hope we have done enough meditations in the past that he can catch on to doing this on his own pretty quickly. As a choleric, he likes to take charge and have me step out of the way.

Β Goals for Bible reading and catechism

We should be finishing the New Testament soon, after several years of studying the Bible together. Next fall I want to have D and M reread and study parts of the Bible on their own. Again I will consider each boy’s temperament and interests, as well as what he remembers and what he needs to review. In high school, I hope we will study single books of the Bible at a higher level.

D and M will also study the early Church fathers, using some primary documents, as well as the early creeds.

C missed out on most of our Old Testament study, so I plan to go back to the beginning with him.

Bible-reading should be a part of life, not just part of a school subject. If we are to know God intimately, we must know what He has revealed about Himself. Nothing teaches the character of God like the Gospels.

Their dad’s input

All children need their fathers to show them how to live for God. Boys especially need this example.

While I focus on learning and prayer, Dan takes turns going on walks with each boy. They discuss any subject that is on our son’s mind. This deepens their relationship with Dan and allows them time to ask any awkward questions, especially ones they don’t feel comfortable asking me.

Templates coming for your use

As I develop a spiritual growth plan for my boys, I am creating templates I hope to share with you. This may become a major project after I finish my current book. In the meantime, I hope to offer you some checklists and journal pages as I complete them.

The spiritual health of our children is even more important than their physical health. We can’t leave it to chance.

Connie Rossini

Share with us: Have you made a spiritual growth plan for your kids? What else should I include in my plans? What helps would you like me to provide?

Written by Connie Rossini

Hi, I’m a Catholic writer and homeschool mother of four boys. I practice Carmelite spirituality. Check out my Books page for publications to help your whole family grow in holiness.

    15 Comments

  1. Nancy Wang May 13, 2014 at 8:41 am Reply

    That sounds wonderful Connie!

    • Connie Rossini May 13, 2014 at 9:05 am Reply

      Glad you’re in, Nancy. If you can think of anything specific you’d find helpful, let me know.

  2. Gina May 13, 2014 at 8:43 am Reply

    I love this!! I’m looking forward to the checklists, journal pages, and templates you’ll have to share. It’s a new goal of mine to have quiet prayer time which my children participate in, but have had no idea how to begin! My oldest is 9, then I have a nearly 8, nearly 6, 4, and infant. Thanks for all the wisdom you share here!

    • Connie Rossini May 13, 2014 at 9:04 am Reply

      You’re welcome, Gina. Your kids are the perfect age to start something like this.

  3. MayhemMama May 13, 2014 at 5:24 pm Reply

    We just started homeschooling this year. It was a secular online program that was much more time intensive that we originally thought and we did not have money to start a different curriculum. Looking forward to next year when we can bring much more of our faith into daily lessons. I am so looking forward to follow along as you develop this.

    • Connie Rossini May 13, 2014 at 8:05 pm Reply

      Thankfully, we don’t have to do everything at once! I refocus every year, and sometimes in between.

  4. Theresa September 16, 2014 at 8:27 am Reply

    I am just seeing this….all in God’s time. Did you post templates at some point? I was out of the blogging loop for a bit so I could of missed it as I missed this one.

  5. fatimafamily November 15, 2014 at 8:47 am Reply

    Good practical information. As parents we are the primary educators of our children. God Bless!

    • Connie Rossini November 15, 2014 at 10:27 am Reply

      Yes. We can’t leave their religious education to others, even if they have other teachers. At the very least, we must lead by example and by our love. God bless you too.

  6. Sarah W. November 9, 2015 at 5:39 am Reply

    Hi, I am new to your site… would you please share the address of your children? You have all boys so far? Also, do you have the practice of 30 minutes of mental prayer each morning? Do you do this before the kids get up or during the 30 minutes of quiet and holy reading that is for everyone? Thanks!

    • Connie Rossini November 9, 2015 at 1:27 pm Reply

      Sarah, I think you meant “the ages of your children,” and auto-correct messed up your comment. I am not going to reveal the “address” of my children. πŸ™‚ They are all boys and I am now past child-bearing. Ages 13, 11, 9, and 4. I used to do my mental prayer (30 minutes or so) first thing in the morning before I had kids. When I had infants, I would pray while I nursed the baby and try to keep the other boy(s) quiet so I could concentrate. Now I pray in the evening. We have family prayer at 8:30 PM. After that, it’s bedtime. They all get to read a while in bed before going to sleep, how long depends on their age. As soon as they are all in bed, I escape to my room, relax a few minutes, then pray. So it’s about 9:15 or so most nights when I start. The reason I don’t pray in the morning is that some of my boys are usually awake before me. It’s much easier to get uninterrupted time at night. But it’s still challenging. I am a night person. I usually have a cup of black or green tea after supper to help me stay awake for prayer. My older 2 are now doing meditation on the Gospels 3 times a week as part of homeschool, but that does not take them more than about 10 minutes, so I use that time for other things like working with my 9 year old.

      • Sarah W. November 12, 2015 at 8:26 pm Reply

        Thanks for sharing your prayer routine and astutely observing that autocorrect foiled me again! πŸ™‚

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